Jeremy Tomlinson  M.Ed., R.M.F.T., R.S.W., EMDRIA Certified

Individual, Couple and Family Therapy, Sex Therapy, EMDR

Sex Therapy

Having a healthy and fulfilling sex life is important.  When couples (or individuals) experience sexual difficulties it is sometimes challenging to know who to talk to or how to deal with the situation.

The types of sexuality issues you might discuss include:

  • Decreased desire
  • Desire discrepancy (when the two members of the couple have different levels of desire for sex)
  • Painful sex
  • How to enhance sexual pleasure and diversity in our sex life
  • Erectile difficulties
  • The influence of childhood sexual abuse or adult sexual assault on sexuality
  • Sexual addiction
  • Dealing with questions about sexual orientation
  • Difficulty achieving orgasm/Never achieving orgasm

You should expect:

  • To be treated with respect
  • Understanding from your therapist that sexuality may be a difficult subject for you to discuss
  • An environment where you feel as comfortable as possible to discuss what may be difficult information for you
  • To use language you feel comfortable with (for example, to describe/identify sexual activity and/or parts of your body)
  • To speak specifically and possibly explicitly about sexuality, your body, sexual activity, fantasy, sexual identity/your experience of being a sexual person (but only to speak about what you feel comfortable discussing)
  • To be asked if you have experienced: any childhood abuse, any inappropriate or uncomfortable sexual activity or a sexual assault as an adult, as your current sexual issues could be influenced by such an incident/experience
  • To be asked what your goals for sex therapy are, and if you are not certain, to be given assistance by your therapist in identifying those goals
  • You may be given homework - to do some reading or visit a particular shop or watch a dvd or to explore your own and/or your partner's body